When you lose a loved one, taking care of yourself is as important as keeping the memory of the person alive. Everyone heals in their own way, there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
My dad passed away last month, and it has been really hard to move on. I do laugh, I do smile, but I also cry for hours, especially right after I am happy about something – I feel sad that he isn’t with me to share in my happiness. At such times one remembers all the little things – the smiles, the hugs, the care.
As I mentioned in my previous post, faith is something so important to hold on to, especially in such difficult times. Having a strong belief in something bigger than yourself can help you pull through.
It’s also important to remember that you are not alone in your grief, and that there are many others who are having a tough time coming to terms with the loss as well.
In the weeks following my dad’s demise many family members and friends gave us a lot of emotional support, greater than expected, which was beautiful and kind of them. The sad part is many friends, who would otherwise text me often, never bothered to offer any sympathy. I didn’t expect them to chat with me for hours, just a small message of condolence would have been nice. But no, absolutely nothing, like all of a sudden I didn’t exist for them. The reason this bothered me so much is because I keep a really small circle of friends, online as well as in reality, and the fact that I take time to ask them about their problems and help them come up with solutions, made me expect that they’d do the same if I ever needed a shoulder to cry on, but I was wrong. It is puzzling to think that the amount of support and care you give others is often never reciprocated. I am glad that this happened though, I now know the people whom I should give my time and energy to.
My circle of friends will now be smaller, but that does not mean that I’ll stop helping others. I will always lend a helping hand, because that is my nature, but from now on I will stop expecting anything in return.
Thank you for reading! Stay blessed!